Is this my fault?

Dear anonymous,

A couple months ago I decided to block Ethan on my twitter and instagram because I didn't want him commenting on my life. It wasn't a decision to make sure he knew nothing about me because all my social media is open to everyone in the world but, it was a decision to not let him be a part of it. A few weeks ago he texted me asking if I had blocked him and I told him no because I didn't feel like I owed him any explanations. Not to mention the reasons I blocked him are my own and if he knew them things could get really strange and awkward between me and his girlfriend April who I am good friends with. I ended up telling him there must be a fluke with my social media.

Tonight, he texted me again saying that he knows I blocked him and that he is going to keep my One Tree Hill DVDs (I lent him my season 2 and 3 while I was living with his girlfriend) for life. Obviously this upset me. I responded nonchalantly and he retaliated sarcastically. Me, already having a bad day, decided to lash out on him (very minorly) and got a "cool story bro" back.

So now I am stuck without my DVDs and the threat of never getting them back because I blocked him off my social media. And I understand if he is hurt or upset or angry about me blocking him because we were quite close for about a year but as soon as he started dating April, he dropped off the face of the earth and disregarded me completely as a friend. The only reason we ever spoke was because he was always at my house with April. And my friends have told me that he is being childish and that even if I did block him, it shouldn't matter because those DVDs are my property. Yet it still feels like I have done something wrong.

To be honest, I want him out of my life as much as possible. If he didn't have my DVDs, I would have blocked his number from my phone, too. If I can avoid him as much as possible, I want to. Which I know becomes difficult because I am so close with April but, "as much as possible" is better than "not at all". So now I am stuck. I don't owe him any explanations, I don't want to tell him but I want my stuff back.

What do I do now?

Love,
Michelle

Too much?

Dear anonymous,

It hit me really fast and really hard today that I want absolutely nothing to do with Ethan anymore. His name showed up on my Facebook news feed and the first thing that came to mind was that I don't want to see his name anywhere ever.

Maybe I have a tendency to do this. Throw people out of my life when they treat me badly or forget about me or toss me aside. Is it too much to do that though? If they don't care about me, is there a reason that I should care about them?

It's difficult. I want to delete him on Facebook and Twitter and in my phone and all that nonsense but he is still dating April. I still love her. To death. I don't really know what the protocol is.

Things like this just make me upset.

Love,
Michelle